Healing Doesn't Always Feel Good!

When people come to see me for chakra healing, reiki, or psychic reading, they most often leave feeling better. Feeling unstuck, or more grounded, or relieved of a weight they've been carrying around for too long. They may find an opportunity to recognize that some of the shame or anger they've been carrying isn't even theirs, but something they absorbed from a parent or other authority figure. These are times when healing just makes it feel better.

Other times, what is out of balance may involve an issue that the client hasn't been willing to look at, or some frozen feelings they've been avoiding for a long time. In those cases, the way to healing is through rather than around those feelings. It might feel worse before it feels better. I'm pretty adept at making sure someone walks out of my office with a sense of improvement. But I cannot keep them from going through the pain of facing whatever it is they need to face.

A long time ago, a reader told me that they were going to tell me the truth, and that if I wanted someone to just feed me fluff and tell me I was great, and that everything was fine whether it was or wasn't, go see someone else. I stayed. I didn't always listen, but I stayed.

I have found that there is a whole industry of psychic readers whose talent lies in knowing what you want to hear and telling you just that.

"He's just not mature enough for a relationship, he really loves you, he'll be back in six months" is the most common one. Or she. The people who have received that reading often find me after the six months, because they can't find the original person who told them that. And they so want it to be true. I always ask, "did I tell you that? I can't be responsible for what someone else told you." And I think to myself that the first reader just caused this person to waste six months of their time wishing and pining for someone who was already gone.

If I tell you a hard truth, it's because I respect you enough to tell you that truth. I respect you and value your time and money. You're coming to me to be shown some things which you haven't seen, and if I lie about any of what I see, then I'm not fulfilling my end of the bargain.

What I know and trust is that if you face the uncomfortable things, life gets better from there forward. Maybe with some bumps and heartache, but authentic and better.

You can disagree with me, and I can be mistaken, but I will not purposefully mislead you or flatter you. We all have an inner critic, and I won't feed that voice! But I think we also have an inner watchdog, who warns us when we're going off the rails. And if I need to urge you to pay attention to that voice, I will. Let me know what you think of this approach.

Have you been harmed by a reader who told you pretty lies?

Most people need to be talked to more kindly than they're talking to themselves, but sometimes a collision with reality is both useful and painful. I generally don't shy away from those.